When Lauren S. Jackpot, right? More women than men now graduate college. Nearly half the U. Multiple studies show that, when asked, men say they prefer dating ambitious go-getters.
But the reality proves otherwise. When single female students were told their answers would be shared with male peers, they acted less ambitious and leadership-oriented — claiming a desire for smaller paychecks, fewer travel days, and fewer working hours, according to the National Bureau of Economic Research. In a related study, when single female students were placed in groups with other women, they admitted wanting high-paying, high-powered jobs.
But in groups with single men, these women were more likely to say they wanted a family-friendly job: lower paying but more flexible. So, what: You have to choose between your goals and a BF? Not on our watch. Feminist bros seem to be in abundance. Each month, Cosmo runs a feature called, "The Man Manual," designed to help women figure out what the men in their lives are thinking.
And each month, The Early Show will do that with Cosmo. In the first such segment, White says, "We make the mistake as women sometimes of thinking that, because men are different, there is something wrong. The average guy speaks 2, to 4, words a day and the average woman 6, to 8, So we're different, but it doesn't mean there is something the matter with the relationship.
White points out that, though the title refers to boyfriends, the advice could apply to husbands, as well. The article below is used with the permission of Cosmopolitan, and any further reproduction is expressly prohibited without such permission.
But forget trying to change your guy. The real trick to relationship bliss is understanding how the boyfriend brain really works so you don't spaz every time he baffles you. To help, Cosmo uncovered the reasons guys do the crazy things they do so you can stop scratching your head. When you and your sweetie were in the early stages of romance, he might have randomly shown up at your door with flowers or called to check in while he was out with the boys.
Nowadays, you have to nudge him to pick up chocolates for your birthday. What gives? Well for one, back then, Mr. Smooth was trying to woo you. Four years later, I still get the bouquet but not the elaborate production. It makes me wonder if his feelings aren't as strong. Deep breaths, Angela. Franco's devotion hasn't dwindled. For women who date men, the male brain can sometimes seem like a total enigma. If you're having trouble understanding men in relationships, let's talk.
There is no one way all men think in relationships. For every 10 guys out there who are scared of intimacy or prefer to take things slow, there are another 10 guys out there who are hopeless romantics just waiting for the chance to settle down with the right person and start a family.
It's really convenient to blame any tension, confusion, or disagreements with our boyfriends or potential partners on the idea that "men are just different. If you feel like you don't understand the way your partner is behaving, that's not because he's a guy—it's because he's not you. He's a whole, separate human being who does not think the same way you do, and to understand how he thinks and what he wants, you're going to need to just ask him. Nothing you read on the internet will fully explain why the particular man you're dealing with is the way he is.
Only he can tell you. Culturally, we do tend to raise boys and girls differently: Boys are rewarded for being tough and adventurous, while girls are rewarded for being good caretakers.
Research shows parents use more words about emotions with their daughters supporting better emotional intelligence and more words about spatial objects with their sons supporting better STEM skills. That stuff all sticks with us and affects the kinds of people men and women grow up to be. However, this difference could have impacts on how people think, interact, and navigate the world. That means the differences between men and women are not inherent: Women are not "naturally" better at talking about their feelings, and men are not "naturally" more logical.
It's important not to make assumptions about what your man is and isn't capable of based on his gender, nor to pigeonhole him into certain stereotypes. Don't assume how he feels about things just because he's a man. There's a pervasive cultural myth that men are mean or act distant when they like you or that men pull away when they are falling in love. But this is another one of those convenient excuses: We tell ourselves that when someone is pulling away, it's because they like us too much.
It's easier to believe that than to just admit that they might not be as interested in you as you thought. If your boyfriend or partner asks for space, ask them what they mean by that and why they need it. It's totally normal to want alone time in a relationship, but you shouldn't make assumptions about why they need it.
Ask for clarity about what your man is experiencing when he asks for space so you can better understand what they need and whether you're able to give it to him. If you're feeling lonely in your relationship, you can tell him that. Open and honest communication is the key to figuring out the best way to approach these situations so that everybody's needs are being met.
Some people do experience fear when falling in love—because it's really scary to be that vulnerable! And I'd never commit until I felt like I'd experienced enough different women. The moral of the story: Until we grow up, mark everything off our sexual checklists or have too many friends convince us that we can't do better than you, the flight risk is real.
From the times you chastise us for leaving a wet towel on the bed to those nights you rip through a pint of fudge ripple without stopping to breathe, we file each incident in a mental folder labeled Evidence She'll Change for the Worse. We flip through that file whenever we're trying to decide if we want to hang on to the relationship. Blame our married friends who took the plunge before us, but many single guys are hyperaware of what could go wrong down the road.
Even if we're crazy about you now, we panic that you'll pack on the pounds, want sex only once a month and nag us day and night. So we secretly flag certain things we're scared might be a harbinger of bad things to come. So sometimes, even if the woman I'm dating is a horny little minx, I freak out and bail.
It's harsh but true. In fact, it's probably the most common reason we bolt. Just because a guy likes you a lot isn't a guarantee that it will evolve into love. And we're surprisingly intuitive when it comes to figuring out a girl's potential on this front. So why do we invest any time in a relationship that we know will ultimately end?
Because we're able to live in the moment for a while and chalk it up to a good experience. But once you show that you're way more into us than we are into you, we'll dump you out of guilt. I cared about her and didn't want to hurt her.
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